Even more so after a few messages or even a date? After all, you read the profile, checked the pictures, sat down and typed a brilliantly composed message. You referenced something on their profile not just looking at the pictures , complimented something in one of their pictures in a carefully fashioned non-pervy way , said something a little cheeky look, I can do banter!

Brilliant … SEND. The object of your desire logs on you can see this , they read your message you can also see this , they look at your profile and can clearly see from your pictures that you helped build an African village on a gap year, can do dead good yoga on a beach in Goa and that you LOVE LAUGHING.

How could they not reply and embark on a series of dates of going out and dancing like no-one is watching or staying in with a bottle of red and a DVD. But nothing, not even an acknowledgement. Just a silent rejection of your efforts. From the comments that were left under my first article, it's evident that both men and women experience this silence, but from asking around my fellow internet daters and reading through the experiences of others, it seems to be more of a frequent issue for the lads than the lasses.

I'm not sure how this translates when it comes to same-sex dating, or if the silence is as much of an issue, but in heterosexual dating, men seem to feel ignored more frequently excluding those who just send penis shots.

You deserve ignoring, you naughty buggers. It sucks. I've been on the receiving end of it, like many other online daters.

However in hindsight, replying to a few messages after being up all night at a Boomtown party in Bristol while typing with my fists and clearly way over the limit to operate a computer, it wasn't my finest messaging moment and I would have ignored me too. But I guiltily hold my hands up to also not replying from time to time.

EVERYONE GETS IGNORED! I tend to ignore most obvious inappropriate matches that end up in my inbox because I have found that when I respond, even in an extremely polite manner…. the responses I get back are snide, angry or filled with venom. And I get it, as no one likes rejection even if it is over something like having an allergy to cats.

And think about it, would you really want the reason spelled out? How would it help you? Reason 1 — You live too far away And in NYC it might mean no more than miles. Typical responses — What do you mean I live to far away? Come on I could drive to your place in 20 minutes, why are you so uptight. Think outside of the box, Long Island to Brooklyn is really no big deal….

and it can go on and on from there with increasing venom. Look not everyone in NYC drives a car or has access to a car and they may not want to rely on a significant other to get back and forth from their place. They might also never want to relocate, so you are better off looking locally for your dream woman. Typical responses — What are you some type of ageist? Lighten up! typical from an older guy or I like older women! You are so hot baby why do have a thing against younger guys?

And this goes on and on and on…. Most women just want to date someone relatively close to their age, as most people do. It is really not that unreasonable an expectation. Even though I could in most cases, and I am sure a lot of men look at my profile and think the same thing.

Personally I never want to know when this is the case, because physical attraction is never the same for two people. I love to wear makeup, heels, skirts, dresses and sometimes curl and spray my hair.

Some men prefer an all natural woman, so they are not the men for me. If you work and the woman you sent an email to works at night just arranging a first date could be hard enough much less trying to see them often. This could be anything from pets, religion, having children, never wanting children, political beliefs…anything could scream deal breaker to a potential partner, and they may not know how to tell you.

I think the same goes for everyone. Ranting and raving about how much dating sucks, or how horrible dating websites are is better to put on a blog than a dating profile…much like THIS blog! Just keep your profile simple and positive. When in doubt have a friend look over what you have written, a female friend is best, before you publish it.

Also some guys have extremely sarcastic profiles and they might work for some, but I know many women who are immediately turned off by them.

But this is no hard rule as I am sure some women love a goofy or sarcastic profile. A man might find a photo of a gal in a bikini absolutely what they are looking for in a profile. I have no idea how this is for men seeking men, or women seeking women, but generally speaking if you are a straight man looking for a straight woman you are better off with more clothing on than less.

Of course there are always exceptions, some women want to see as much as possible before they meet you.

And if you are just looking for casual sex the half-naked or nearly naked photo could be EXACTLY what you need to find appropriate partners. This particular one drives me crazy because most of the time, the one photo is partially obscured or taken form a weird angle. It just makes me think that the guy is married or hiding something. And any profile with no photo is extremely suspect…it is basically how to look married on an online dating website!

So you might feel dissed, but that woman might be ignoring her entire profile for months and it has nothing to do with you.

There is a huge gray area when it comes to dating. I do know of people who put profiles out there as jokes, just to see what they would get. So either the profile contacting me was fake, or they were using my profile without my consent and either tactic is sleazy as hell. The woman is probably ignoring you to spare your feelings. Just let it go, they are not trying to hurt you.

It is hard for everyone and just hang in there. Add me on Facebook Juliet Jeske Facebook Fan Page. For me, personally, I have better luck out in the real world. Internet dating is a waste of time and money. Pingback: Online Dating: Nice Guys of OKCupid — Why its horrible julietjeske.

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A couple of weeks ago I went climbing with my friend Dan. I met Dan on an internet date last year; we got chatting because we both know how to keep bees. Up until that point, the youngest male beekeeper I had met was my stepdad, who is in his mids. So to meet a man under 40 that shared this particular common ground was great.

Over breakfast at Trove in Levenshulme, it was evident that we weren't destined to romantically chase each other around an apiary, but we clearly got on as friends.

Dan expressed an interest in learning to climb, so we've been sharing our tales of internet dating and bees at Awesome Walls in Stockport once a week ever since. This particular week Dan had a face on him like he'd been slapped with a wet flannel. After what seemed like another promising date a few days before, he was encountering "The Silence" — that cruel tumbleweed blowing around your inbox; when a reply to your message seems to have got lost in the ether. Because no-one is rude enough to just ignore you, right?

Even more so after a few messages or even a date? After all, you read the profile, checked the pictures, sat down and typed a brilliantly composed message. You referenced something on their profile not just looking at the pictures , complimented something in one of their pictures in a carefully fashioned non-pervy way , said something a little cheeky look, I can do banter!

Brilliant … SEND. The object of your desire logs on you can see this , they read your message you can also see this , they look at your profile and can clearly see from your pictures that you helped build an African village on a gap year, can do dead good yoga on a beach in Goa and that you LOVE LAUGHING.

How could they not reply and embark on a series of dates of going out and dancing like no-one is watching or staying in with a bottle of red and a DVD. But nothing, not even an acknowledgement. Just a silent rejection of your efforts.

From the comments that were left under my first article, it's evident that both men and women experience this silence, but from asking around my fellow internet daters and reading through the experiences of others, it seems to be more of a frequent issue for the lads than the lasses.

I'm not sure how this translates when it comes to same-sex dating, or if the silence is as much of an issue, but in heterosexual dating, men seem to feel ignored more frequently excluding those who just send penis shots.

You deserve ignoring, you naughty buggers. It sucks. I've been on the receiving end of it, like many other online daters. However in hindsight, replying to a few messages after being up all night at a Boomtown party in Bristol while typing with my fists and clearly way over the limit to operate a computer, it wasn't my finest messaging moment and I would have ignored me too.

But I guiltily hold my hands up to also not replying from time to time. When I first started online dating I replied to every single person. Before you know it, you are juggling a fair few conversations; some that you know full well are not going to lead to a date.

On asking one person I dated how they handled this situation, he simply replied: "I just ignore them. After experiencing being ignored a couple of times, it kind of felt that this was just the way it was done.

An unwritten code of accepted rudeness that you probably wouldn't apply in other aspects of your life — unless you were a bit of a turd.

This is where Dan was at. Post-date the text messages were not being responded to. The tumbleweed was knocking around in his phone inbox, and disappointment had set in. In a bid to cheer Dan up — and stop him expressing his cynicism via the medium of the increasingly droopy rope he was supposed to be belaying me with.

I suggested we both have a change of tack and go speed dating. Then you can't be ignored — everyone is sat there in front of your face, any awkward encounters or rejections last a maximum of three minutes. It's the dating equivalent of ripping off a plaster: when it comes to the shit bits, it's over very quickly.

It would be a new experience for both of us. He agreed, so it was booked. We were off to Elite Speed Dating at Manchester's Circle club.

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Online dating: do men get ignored more often than women? In her latest dispatch from the cyber-romance frontline, Northern Lass meets a dater who is getting the dreaded silent treatment. Topics Online dating The Northerner Internet Relationships Manchester blogposts. Reuse this content. Most viewed.

How would it help you? It'll do you have made online to everyone on dating again after is a first dates. Unless of course, you decide to change your ways. Vanlife: The beauty of a 2, mile European road trip. I've spent some downtime writing around 15 of these profile bios, and I'm utterly embarrassed by each one. I suggest you remember this well enough and long enough:. Being overly picky probably not claim to be enough for anyone?

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